Relationship Tip #2: 3 Ways to Prove Your Interest
Once you’ve met a woman on a dating site, you’re going to want to make certain she sticks around. This can seem intimidating, especially if you’re not all that familiar with long-term relationships.
There are certain pitfalls associated with long-term relationships that you’re going to want to avoid, right in the beginning. We’ll teach you three surefire ways to prove to a woman that you’re interested in her as more than just a willing participant in horizontal fun.
First, prove that you aren’t looking around for something better than she is for you.
Women are jealous by nature. Men are jealous by nature. Humans are jealous by nature, so make sure you don’t ruin your chances before you really get started with them.
If you think this is the best girl for you, log off the dating websites.
Yes, that’s kind of a big commitment, especially if you paid for a few months. But this isn’t something to do right away once you meet a new woman that you want in your life.
This is what you do once you’ve been out with a few women, and you’ve had a few dates with this one in particular. If she’s so good that you’re sure you won’t meet someone better for you on the dating site you’re currently subscribed to, get off the site.
We urge you not to qualify your girlfriend by objective standards. Don’t think that by staying on these sites you can get a fitter girl, or a smarter girl, or a richer girl that easily. What’s important is whether the one you’re with is the right one for you.
If she is, get off the sites. If you’re not 100 percent sure that she’s the one for you, at least don’t log on to the dating websites. She might get curious and log on to her old profile—and if she sees that you’ve been an active member since you two started dating, you might be in trouble.
If you’re happy, don’t ruin a good thing by looking at the grass on the other side. It might be greener, but you’re not allowed to mow it without knocking down your own fence.
Make time to spend with her.
Yes, it might seem obvious that you should spend time with the woman you’re in a relationship with, but that’s not precisely what we mean by giving you that advice.
What we mean is that you should make time to spend with this woman outside of dates. Try taking her to places that aren’t romantic, or don’t have the idea of a “date” attached to them. We don’t mean you should spend all of your time with her in your favorite corner pub, but it doesn’t have to be Leicester Square for the shows every night, either.
This doesn’t mean you should stop trying to make this woman feel special when you’re together.
You should still make time for romantic and/or expensive dates with this woman, at least as often as when you first got together, for the time being. But to prove your interest, making time to spend with her in a casual, fun, non-romantic setting can work wonders.
Take her somewhere you can play games, make jokes, or just enjoy yourselves. Not every date has to be the most exciting one you’ve ever been on. Make it clear that it’s her company you enjoy, and not the places you’ve been taking her to.
Women are looking for the same things we are.
Most of the women you meet won’t want to go on fancy dates forever. They worry about mad things like whether you’ll care if they wore the same dress twice, and they don’t always want to wear the large heels that make their legs and bum look good but hurt their feet.
Honestly, most women would be just as happy with the occasional quiet night in with the man they’re seeing. Once you’ve found someone you click with, dating can be about staying in with a pizza. It doesn’t all have to be jaunts to Paris for the weekend.
The right woman will love spending time with you, even if you’re not doing much of anything. That doesn’t mean she should fit into what you naturally do, of course. If your usual evening consists of sitting around and playing video games or watching telly, you’re going to need to find a way to incorporate her that she enjoys.
If she’s not fond of any of your interests, however, don’t feel the need to bend over backwards to accommodate her. Instead, consider whether you’ve really clicked in the first place, if she won’t enjoy any of your interests and you won’t enjoy hers.