Sex Meetup Tip #2: How to Have a One Night Stand
There’s one major trick to getting a one night stand: say what it is you’re looking for.
Women want casual sex just as much as men do. The difference is that they’re a lot shyer about asking for it. You might think that means you should be equally shy, but that isn’t the case.
Women who are looking for one night stands usually want a man that’s very up-front about what he wants. They don’t want a guy who’s looking for a wife or a long-time girlfriend. They want a guy who knows what he wants, a guy who says what he wants, and a guy that’s looking for RIGHT NOW.
Don’t pretend you’re looking for something you’re not.
You’d be surprised how many women are looking for a quick hookup online. As long as you’re up front about it, women aren’t going to be annoyed or think you’re some kind of pig for asking for exactly what you want.
Women will appreciate a man who’s looking for sex and says so a lot more than a guy who pretends to want a relationship to get a girl in bed. There’s a lot of attraction in someone who has confidence, and men who are firm about their convictions convey that.
There are more women looking for sex than you think.
As men, we tend to think of men wanting sex and women wanting relationships. However, we’ve found that this isn’t really the case. Maybe a slightly higher percentage of men are into casual sex, but the numbers are a lot closer than we’d ever have imagined.
It makes sense, when you think about it.
The urge to have sex is a biological and human one. But when you go out to bars and pubs, you have to deal with all these pressures of society that says women who go home with men on the first date are worthless slags, and no woman wants that.
When you meet women online, you can usually tell right away that they’re looking for sex. If so, you know it’s a go, and you’ll probably be much more excited to find a way to meet them. You know they’re looking for the same thing that you are, and you know they’ll be receptive to the kinds of advances you’re interested in making.
Women appreciate honesty.
Your mates have probably said lots of things about how birds need sweet words and a lot of gentling up before they’ll be ready to go. Don’t listen to them, no matter how much they pull.
While there is a time and a place for total honesty, this is it. If you can only get a woman to go out with you by pretending you want a relationship instead of just sex, that woman is probably not going to have sex with you.
You can be blunt. This is the time.
There are times for concealing what you really think. When we say you can be blunt, we don’t mean that you should tell every woman you meet that yes, her dress makes her look like a lopsided cow. We just mean that there are some things you should tell the truth about.
Say what you want to get what you want.
You’re on a site where you can meet up for sex. If you say you want a relationship, you’re not fooling anyone, least of all the girl you’re trying to go home with.
This is the best way to get involved in a no strings attached relationship, even if it’s not something that you’ve done before. The best way to make sure that happens is to make sure the strings never get attached in the first place—you don’t want to be responsible for slicing through all of them once they get tied there.
Don’t waste anyone’s time.
If the fact that you’ll get laid more often by being honest isn’t enough, consider the time you’ll be wasting by trying to pretend that you don’t want what you really want.
You’ll be wasting women’s time if you don’t say what you want up front. You’ll be attracting women who don’t want to buy what you’re selling, and they won’t get what they’re looking for with you.
While you might not think that’s a big deal, be aware that the more of their time you’re wasting, the more of your own time you’ll be wasting as well. Your time is valuable, and you shouldn’t have to spend it on women that aren’t going to give you what you want.
Bluntness and honesty aren’t ALWAYS the best policy, but they have their place.