After people have been dating for a while, things may start to get boring. There are books upon books written about how to spice up your relationship and therapists who claim to know how to do it for a small fee. Sometimes the problem can be solved with introducing sex toys or lingerie and sometimes it requires more than that. Occasionally a guy or girl might suggest something a little more adventurous to their partner: group sex. It’s a big step and there are some things you need to consider before answering. Read on to see if group sex is right for you.

Jealousy

“Group sex might make her feel jealous”

This is by far the biggest factor. It doesn’t matter how often you’ve fantasized about being with another woman or having a threesome because you’ll not only get that in group sex. You’ll also be seeing your girlfriend/wife/whatever you want to call her having sex with another person. Often times this turns guys on, but when she starts paying more attention to this other woman than you, things can go downhill fast. It’s even worse to see a man pleasuring your woman if you aren’t prepared for it. There is nothing sexy about jealousy and both people need to think about that. She also cannot get upset if you’re with another woman. When both of you are having sex with the same person it’s not equal either. There’s a lot to focus on and attention can’t be divided equally all the time.

Availability

“Getting ready for a group sex party”

There are places across the U.K. where you can find people who are willing to have an orgy, but you want to make sure that they fit in with what you are looking for. Some people feel more comfortable initiating sex when they don’t know the people. There’s less stress in regard to the fact that they don’t know you. They have no idea what your habits are, the size of your dick, how crazy you are in the bedroom, etc. But there’s also a desire to want to perform well, especially if you’re having sex with your woman. It’s going to be hard to feel confident when you’re getting it on with another chick at the party when you can’t make your lady go crazy. But if the idea of another woman scares you then it might be easier to arrange a sex party with a group of your friends. Not the closest ones, but the ones that you know well enough to get naked in front of. After you all have sex with each other though, that’s something that you just can’t un-see.

Honesty

When the instigator brings up having group sex it’s important to figure out if this will even fix anything. Yes, it might make the two of you more adventurous and grow closer, or the person who brought it up might just be looking for a consensual way to sleep with other people who aren’t you. Talk it through and figure out exactly why they think this will work it all out.