When you first begin dating a woman and things start getting hot, it’s not uncommon for the Missionary position to be the go-to. Essentially the guy on top is easy and quick to get into, making it the perfect “I need it now” position. But after a while that gets a little boring. She may still enjoy it, but a man can only be excited to be on top for so long. Here are three ways to get her to go past the Missionary position.

1. Get Her on Top

“Convince her to get on top”

It sounds simple, but a lot of women are insecure about being on top of you during sex. They may not think that their body is up to par or they simply feel like they’re no good at it. There is some truth in it that it’s not the easiest to do. Eventually her thighs will start to burn and she may get tired since women aren’t natural thrusters. Ask her to try it out, at least a few times. If she’s a keeper then she’ll oblige. But in order to keep her feeling good about this you’re going to have to help too. She wants to cum just as much as you do and you can still help her get there by keeping rhythm with her (it’s not a one chick show) but be careful not to overdo it or she may be thrown off her rhythm or think you’d rather take over. Make sure to touch her body and compliment her often. “This feels so good” or “You look so sexy” will boost her confidence and make her feel like she’s in control, which she totally is. A lot of women actually end up loving this position.

2. Look at Porn Together

“Watching porn together will help her to be more comfortable with you”

Whether you look at pictures or videos, watching porn with your lady will be a little cheesy, it’s true, but it does spark ideas on new positions to try. Seeing porn actresses like Manchester’s own Alicia Rhodes in a variety of positions and commanding the film will hopefully encourage your lady to give it a go. If she’s not into watching modern pornography, give the Kama Sutra or couples sex book a try. They’re less lewd and more geared toward both people enjoying sex more.

3. Make it a Game

Not like Simon Says, but one of those adult games that they have at sex shops. Some of them promote ideas like a new position every week or have a list to choose from for a winner of a challenge. This sort of thing makes it feel as though it’s more in her control of what you end up doing. If you go about nagging her or constantly asking to change things in the bedroom it might just make her feel bad. But when you put the element of fun or challenge in there that she can potentially choose she feels like it’s less of a chore and more of an exciting event for the two of you to use to grow as a couple.