Dating Tip #1: How to Ask a Woman for a Second Date
So you’re looking for a relationship, and you think you’ve found the one from an online dating site. First of all, congratulations. Dating isn’t easy, and dating in the UK is doubly not easy for anyone.
At least, you think you’ve found the one you want to be in a relationship with. You don’t need to be sure just yet that you’re looking to marry this woman or anything. Just wanting to be around her is enough. You’re still going to have to figure out how to ask her to spend more time with her after your first evening together.
How do you ask for a second date?
It’s important to know how to ask a woman for a second date before you go on the first one. If you really like a woman, you’re not going to want to wait several days to call her. You want to know what you have to do before you go out with her the first time, just in case things go as well as you’re hoping they’ll go with this woman.
Make sure she knows you like her company.
You’d be surprised at how many women say men are “hard to read.” We don’t usually feel that way, but women are a lot better at picking out each other’s facial expressions than they are at doing it for men.
Tell her. Tell her verbally that you enjoy her company, and that you have fun when you’re with her. Tell her a few times, until you’re absolutely certain that she understands what you’re talking about.
If she knows you’re having a good time with her, she’ll be much more likely to want to see you again. Women like to be appreciated, so make sure she knows that her company is being appreciated just fine.
Don’t wait until the end of the date.
It’s never too early to get in good. You can always make sure that a woman knows you’re having fun with her, especially since that makes it more likely that she’ll want to see you again. Women love spending time with blokes that make them feel good about themselves, after all.
You may be looking for love, but don’t forget to have fun as well. Love can develop out of a rapport much more easily that it can develop out of nothing at all.
In films and on the telly, the time to ask for a second date is always at the end of the evening. In real life, it’s not necessary to wait until that time, if you don’t want to. In fact, NOT waiting until the end of the evening can be vastly in your favor, by contrast.
We’re not saying that you should sit down at the table and immediately reserve the same one for tomorrow’s evening. We ARE saying that you shouldn’t waste a time when you’re both having fun and feeling good, just because you’re not standing at her doorstep.
When you’re both having a good time, and at what you believe to be the high point of the evening, ask her if she’s free to meet up with you again at some later time.
Try to make it organic.
The best second date is one that evolves from conversation. For example, a conversation like this:
Woman: “I’ve been dying to try out the new _____ [club, theatre, paintball course]! I used to love it, but haven’t been since I moved.”
Man: “There’s a brilliant one I’ve been going to. We should check it out this week, if you’re free.”
This is another reason why it’s best if your conversations focus on your interests, and hers. There are endless opportunities to connect both now and later if you’re talking about things you both enjoy.
Don’t jump in too early.
Just because a conversation is good doesn’t mean you’re automatically going to get a second date. It also doesn’t mean that you’ve reached the high point of the evening yet.
If you try for a second date too early, you’ll probably get a slightly uncomfortable smile from her at best, and an enigmatic response such as, “Let’s just see how tonight goes first before we make any more plans, shall we?”
You don’t want that. That’s the dating equivalent of, “Don’t call us, we’ll call you.”
Make sure you’re giving her time to enjoy hanging out with you. Asking too early in the evening is detrimental, but you can always wait a bit longer. A better opportunity will almost always present itself if you’re willing to wait until the moment is right.