Dating Tip #3: Meeting Her Friends
When you’re interested in a girl that you met online, and the two of you have been going strong, there are two huge hurdles you have to cross: meeting her friends, and having her meet your friends.
We’ve discussed introducing your girl to your friends in another guide, but sometimes, meeting her friends can be just as stressful for a man. Even if you were initially just meeting up for sex, relationships can develop spontaneously when you least expect them, and suddenly you have to deal with those consequences.
You’re going to have to meet her friends.
No man enjoys going through this. There are some pitfalls that can be very dangerous for a budding relationship in meeting her friends, but it’s not a meeting that you can avoid forever.
Accept the situation with good grace when it comes, and be prepared. We’ll walk you through what to expect. Sometimes, that’s all you need in order to feel more secure.
Realize that this is important to her.
The woman you’re with wants you to meet her friends. If she likes you, this is true. If she keeps dating you, she probably likes you. Believe us, you WANT her to want you to meet her friends. That means she thinks you’re going to be around for the long haul.
Her friends know that she’s been looking for a relationship. Women talk about this kind of thing far more than men do, so don’t be surprised to find it’s been the subject of conversation on multiple occasions between your girl and her friends, even when you’re not around.
This isn’t just gossip.
A woman’s friends can be fiercely protective. They’re going to want to meet you so that they can see for sure that you’re not going to hurt their friend. This is very important to women.
Remember, her friends will already know that she’s really into you. Women tell each other things like that far more often than you might expect. If she’s ready to have you meet, her friends have already heard all about you.
Don’t stress over what they might have heard.
Men tend to get wrapped up in this one: women DO share information with one another, and that can be very alarming. When you meet your girlfriend’s friends, try not to be worried about what she might have told them.
Yes, women discuss kissing, touching, and sex with their girlfriends. They discuss technique and size and smells. They discuss everything. You’re going to have to come to terms with the fact that you’ll be meeting women who’ve heard intimate details about you, unless you’re dating a shockingly, abnormally private woman.
Just know that whatever she’s told them, it can’t have been that bad, or she wouldn’t still be with you. She likes you, and she’s proud of you. You want her to be proud of you, so don’t run away just because she wants to introduce you to her friends.
Let her know if you’re nervous.
The woman you’re with probably won’t mind hearing that you’re not all that confident about meeting her friends. If anything, it might be a confidence boost for her, or she might find it charming.
Don’t expect her to completely put you at ease, though. That’s your job. Make sure you’re not relying on her to fix your well-being. You’re a big boy, you can handle meeting a few women.
Ask her for some info on her friends.
One of the most nerve-wracking things about meeting a woman’s group of friends is trying to remember who is who, and what you’ve already learned about them. Ask her for some help beforehand, so you make sure you already know everyone’s names and basic details.
This can also help if you’re worried about putting your foot in your mouth. Forgetting someone’s name isn’t great, but it’s better than making a morbid joke to someone whose mother has just passed away.
If you’re good at memorizing data like that, get her to give you plenty. It’ll serve you well at first and in the long run. You can never know too much about a woman, or about her friends.
Above all, do not hit on her friends.
A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. A bird on your arm and going home with you is worth all of her friends put together.