Hooking up with an ex is one of the most common things that men do. In every culture with a defined dating scene and in every country ranging from the US to the UK, guys are hooking up with exes for an easy and fun one-night-stand. Whether you’ve got a good thing going with another woman and need a little extra fun, or if you’re single for the moment and really need to blow off some steam without the added commitment, you’ve probably been tempted at least once to text your ex and see what she’s up to. You’ll hear different opinions from quite a few men in regards to whether or not this lapse back into old habits is a good idea. Some say it’s their quickest, most preferred way to get laid when they’re not in a relationship (or even when they are) while some say that it’ll lead to even more trouble than it’s worth. There are a few things to consider.
With an ex, you’ve already been there and done that. You don’t have to go out to a club and meet a woman and you don’t have to work to try and impress them so they’ll go home with you. When you’re hooking up with an ex, usually all it takes is a chance encounter or a well-phrased text. It’s easy and fun for you. There won’t be any of the awkward fumbling around and trying to figure out what the other is like in bed, because you already know. If your breakup was one of those unfortunate situations where the two of you were sexually compatible but just couldn’t make it work for an actual relationship, this is a great way to have some mind-blowing sex without having to worry about trying to salvage the relationship like you once tried to. Having that familiarity is going to make you (and more important, her too, if you were worried about her being willing to have a fling) comfortable and ready to get down to business.
The thing about exes is that you probably broke up with her for a reason. Maybe she has terrible habits, or maybe she’s upsettingly, ridiculously clingy. Those are both definite deal-breakers, so the two of you aren’t together. That alone is the biggest thing that stops many men from having casual flings with exes. It′s also what keeps them from even having a one-night-stand or two with her. Depending on your ex’s personality, another big downside to jumping into bed with her again after so long is that she might start thinking you want a relationship again. When most men sleep with their exes, it usually starts out as a spur-of-the-moment thing; you were horny and she was convenient. There’s not usually a whole lot of discussion beforehand. When it’s all said and done, though, there’s no reason to bask in the afterglow. You have to make it clear to her that it was just a one-time thing or you could end up in trouble.