Why You Should Go Down First
Foreplay can get awkward really fast if the two of you aren’t willing to take that first step. Someone always has to make the first move, and if you don’t man up, then you’re heading towards a sex life that fizzles out before it even starts. Don’t have her yawning when you can make her moan instead. Making the first move isn’t just brave – it’s essential. Touching and kissing gets boring quickly, but why should you be the one to start the oral sex first?
Security
A real gentleman makes the first move; so don’t be shy about going between her legs. If you’re seriously put off by the smell, just breathe through your mouth. You won’t smell a thing. Going down on her first will help her feel secure, and will reassure her that you are a great guy. Feeling safe is important for a woman and you’ll be rewarded for your courtesy when she gets her turn. In this case, nice guys really do finish last – remember that. Letting her get off first will lead to the next part in this list.
Obligation
After she finishes, if you went first she’s going to feel very grateful. Not only is she going to feel grateful, but she’s also going to show some gratitude. The obvious answer to this dilemma is to go down on you right away. Don’t force it, but definitely let her know that you want it. Sit back such that she has no choice but to look at your dick; she’ll feel obligated to go down, but not forced. This is the key, because making her feel like she doesn’t have a choice is a great way to get a blowjob. She’ll have heard from her friends how pushy guys can be, so it’s your job to prove them wrong. Let her take her time – being patient will make her much more willing to go down on you. Unless you want to come off like a huge jerk, don’t just push her down there and tell her to suck. It doesn’t work that way.
Skipping the Awkwardness
Your choice to go down on her first eliminates that awkward fumbling in between foreplay and the actual sex. Taking the time to decide who’s doing what will just create a rift between you two during what’s supposed to be a fluid action. If there’s a pause at all between kissing and oral sex, it should just be for you to make eye contact and smirk before diving between her legs. That little bit of eye contact will be just the jolt she needs to get going and get wetter than you can imagine. Having her moaning at your mouth is definitely a better option than awkwardly laughing and asking who wants to go first. Doing that makes you seem like an inexperienced teen with his first girlfriend. If you really commit to going down first, suggest a nice 69 to ease the tension before it starts getting weird. She’ll be grateful for your bravery, we promise.